How do we define personal boundaries?
The line we draw that we do not wish others to cross.
Are boundaries selfish, are they necessary, do we all need them? Self protection is what we use for survival in this often crazy, hurtful, world we navigate in on a daily basis. Without boundaries, others may run roughshod over our personal emotional space.
One example may be your need for visitors to call before stopping by. Sometimes the need for quiet and time for recharging is for their benefit as it is for yours. Perhaps bedtimes is 9:00 p.m. and you need your rest, so no phone calls will be received after that time.
Maybe you have that one friend or family member who dumps all their drama and negativity into your ear and psyche on a regular basis, how do you respectfully escape? Possibly you have someone close to you with substance abuse issues, if that is emotionally more than you can handle dealing with them, should you have to?
Learn to quietly shut down what doesn’t serve your highest good. Ways to do that include, blocking all calls after your desired bedtime or before your morning meditation. We all interrupt a workout or whatever we are doing to rush to the phone, train yourself to let that call go as your mental well being is always up to you!
Family members are tricky, and the guilt is always present, so the uncomfortable conversation may be needed for them as well as you. If the drama coming across the phone is more than you are willing to deal with, say so!! ” I feel your pain and there are professionals that can share their wisdom and really help you…I recommend…so and so”. They helped me when I was feeling down and afraid.”
I have listened to many who verbalize their frustration and want an end to the interruptions. Resentment can form and further damage fragile relationships if the practice of setting boundaries is not put into place.
In conclusion I urge you to do the work of becoming comfortable in the best self-care ever….Setting Boundaries!