The Stories We Tell Ourselves

How many times do we experience some sort of pain over a traumatic event, family skeleton,  or relationship breakup?

One coping mechanism that works well is to go over it in our mind and craft the story to soften the hard truths so we won’t succumb to utter depression or despair. I have seen this technique used by  people over and over again. Recently I watched a video of a woman who’s husband left her and the moves she made to make it through. As she retold the painful event to the audience she conveniently left out some of the hard truths that surely would have shared some of the blame on to her. To an unknowing audience she made herself the victim and provoked sympathy to help her feel better and bring others onboard to her rendition of the story. After awhile one believes their special memory of how it went down. As the years go by, even it was not  the truth it becomes the truth to the person telling it and their sphere of influence.

This stunts personal growth. Look at what happened, and dissect it, so as to be able to see ALL the details of the story and claim or own your part in it. A life lesson to further your souls progress to truth and light and help you to better navigate the next hurdle. If we stubbornly hold on to a myth we will walk in ignorance and may be doomed to repeat the same steps the next time. How sad, how boring, to endure a life lesson over and over.